I suppose I have to give you a quick rundown of myself, just so you understand my state of mind.
We ended up breaking up, and my heart broke. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I would have lasting scars from the relationship and from the breakup for years to come Turkin naiset personals. As a result, it is difficult for me to open up to new people and, indeed, even to open up to the idea of another person in my life.
Pros and Cons of Tinder
I never thought I would find anything of worth about Tinder, but after using it for a few days, I find myself surprised. There are actually a few things I like a lot about Tinder.
- A problem I typically have in real life is that the guys I’m interested in don’t know I am, and the guys I’m not interested in ask me out. Tinder solves that problem by “Matching” you and another person only if you both say you’re interested in one another up front, saving you time and angst.
- The messaging app that is in Tinder itself allows you to get to know the person before you go out with them and without giving them your number. This means that when you do go on a date, you don’t have to ask questions like “Where are you from?” but can get down to more meaningful conversation.
- You get matched with people who never message you or who never message you back, which is a pain.
- If you are picky (like me) you can Tinder swipe for ages without finding someone to swipe right on (which obviously depends on personal preferences).
- It is actually a real problem trying to keep my conversations straight in my head. I often get confused and don’t remember what I said to whom and which guy likes what activity.
- You have to watch out for catfishes (which is why I consider anyone with two pictures or less, no bio, or a small bio to be off-limits).
Day 5 & 6: Shattered Expectations
Sometimes I think about my grandparents and great-grandparents and ruminate on how it must have been to date in their time. I can imagine it now: young men bringing flowers to the door when they pick you up, filling up your dance card and making eyes with the handsome young man across the way, walking home under the light of the moon holding hands with your sweetheart. It must’ve been the life.
Anyway, back to dating being awkward. You meet up with a person you barely know, talk for one to two hours, and hope to enjoy yourself enough that you’ll agree to put yourself through the awkward again, hoping to eventually get to a place where the two of you can abandon the awkward and simply feel comfortable in one another’s presence.
However, even as I found myself in this potentially awkward situation with Guy #1 on Monday, I was happy to discover that we had similar interests-and that maybe our date wouldn’t be so awkward at all.
I’ll spare you the tedious details, but suffice it to say that, for my first Tinder date ever, I couldn’t be happier with the way it went. Guy #1 and I hit it off swimmingly and ate and talked for a good two hours before parting. We had similar interests, similar goals, similar humor, etc. I had fun, and I’d say there is potential for another date.
